Going through a divorce is physically, emotionally, and mentally challenging. Self-esteem may be low, emotions are often running high, and being almost, but not quite yet single, can be exciting. Although there is no Illinois law against dating during a divorce, it can add additional complications and legal issues for you and your new partner. Before you jump into a new relationship pre-divorce, here a few reasons as to why you should consider waiting until the ink is dry on your divorce papers:
Changes or elimination of spousal support or child support may occur. If the judge finds out you are living with your new partner, your spousal support may be affected. If you are the one receiving spousal support payments, the court may find that you no longer need the money because your new partner is supporting you. If you are receiving child support, the extra income coming into your household by your new partner could result in a decrease in your child support payments. If you are the one making spousal or child support payments, the court may find that you have more money available, and order you to pay more. No matter what side of the coin you are on, your spousal or child support could take a hit.
You have children. Bringing your children around just anyone, especially in the midst of a divorce, is not an easy decision to make. Additionally, new relationships take time, and if you are focusing all your time on your new relationship, your children could notice and be affected by your distance.
Child custody/parenting time may be affected. It is no secret that your ex-spouse may feel like they have been replaced and wonder how you and your new partner will be able to raise your children. Custody issues can be frustrating enough, but when one parent starts dating again before the divorce and custody are finalized, it can be like throwing gasoline on a fire, making it even more difficult to reach an agreement regarding your child custody arrangements and/or parenting responsibilities.
It is a distraction. Dating is fun, but not while you are going through a divorce. Your divorce and/or your children need and deserve all your time and focus during this difficult period. There will be plenty of time following your divorce to jump back into the dating scene.
Contact an Elmhurst, Illinois Divorce Attorney Today
Dating is only one issue that can have an impact on the divorce process. If you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage, call our office to find out how we can help. Our clients benefit from our unique team of attorneys as we work together to provide you with the best representation. Contact a DuPage County, Illinois divorce attorney at Weiss-Kunz & Oliver, LLP, at 312-605-4041.